Proverbs 31:16-19 ~ Homemaker or Career Woman?

Proverbs 31:16-19 Homemaker or Career Woman?

She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.
She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night.
She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. Proverbs 31:16-19 ESV

Should I be a homemaker or is it okay if I work outside the home? This is a question many Christian women struggle with, myself included. What does the Bible tell women to do? Is this one of those things that if the Bible speaks on it I have to obey or did it pertain just to women of that time period? Does the Bible speak on this subject at all? I'm gonna try to answer these questions as best as I can from a place of willing obedience to the Word of our God. Where the Word of God speaks I will speak the truth, and where the Bible doesn't speak, I will speak from a place of obedience to the Holy Spirit. God is truth, and truth is unchanging, so let's see what His Word says!

Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. Titus 2:4-5

Lets get one thing straight, no matter your belief on women working outside the home, the home is the first and most important ministry of a wife and mother. We as Christian women need to make sure that we are loving our husbands and children and showing them that love through how we care for them and our home. Some tend to see this verse as a command that women must not work outside the home. I don't see that myself. I see this verse as saying that Christian women need to never let anything keep them from ministering to their home. A career should never become more important than family for a Christian woman. We are all called to be homemakers! To let a career become more important than your family is to say to God that you want to pursue the desires of your own selfish heart more than you want to pursue the ministry He has given you first and foremost. If your career takes away too much time from your family and you aren't able to fulfill your duties to them, then I suggest finding a different job or staying home if that is possible. I know there are circumstances such as single parenthood where the mother has to work outside the home to provide for her children. That is important and part of her ministering to her families needs. However, mothers who are married should make sure their main priority is the well being of their home,even if that means they have to give up a full time career.

She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.Her lamp does not go out at night. Proverbs 31:18 ESV

She knows that her merchandise is profitable. This obviously means she sold thing outside of the home. Maybe it was wine from that vineyard she planted in verse 17, we don't know, but nonetheless she worked. Even if you are a homemaker I think it's wise to see what you could do to contribute to your families income. We all know we want that Kate Spade purse or maybe it's those new shiny cowboy boots, if you're like me! While our husbands could purchase them for us as a gift, if we made our own money we'd have the ability to buy those wants ourselves; Or maybe we would value that money more and want to do more good with it like sponsor a child from a poor country or give to the single mom's ministry at our church. Either way, we'd have more money to contribute to the needs of our households and the needs of others. I know some mom's don't have that luxury to work while they are homemaker's tending children. Especially if you have a large family or you're homeschooling. That's okay, I don't want you to feel like you're less than because you can't work, just like I don't want wives or mothers who work to feel less than because they work. It's all about balance! We need to make sure we are meeting the needs of our family first and foremost. A lot of women out there work because they want to not because they need to. Unless God has called us to it, we don't need to do it! We need to be pursuing God's will in everything we do!

since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. Colossians 3:24

Piggybacking off my last post, you can read it here, everything that we do needs to be done for the Lord! Whether it be caring for the home or doing a job out side the home. It all needs to be done for God's glory! I hope you don't get up from reading this post thinking I believe women who work outside the home are worth less than those who don't. Honestly, I wrote a lot of this post on my lunch break at work! So I know what it's like to be a working woman. My hearts desire is that when you set your phone down or step away from the computer you will do so with a renewed desire to fulfill the greatest call God has on your life, the ministry of home! Listen to the Lord, obey His commands, take care of and love your children and your husband, and do it all with a joyful heart! I leave you with this quote from Elisabeth Elliot, one of my heroes in the faith.

“This job has been given to me to do. Therefore, it is a gift. Therefore, it is a privilege. Therefore, it is an offering I may make to God. Therefore, it is to be done gladly, if it is done for Him. Here, not somewhere else, I may learn God’s way. In this job, not in some other, God looks for faithfulness.” ~ Elisabeth Elliot

What do you do? Are you career woman or has God called you to be a homemaker? Let me know in the comments below!

With Love,


6 thoughts on “Proverbs 31:16-19 ~ Homemaker or Career Woman?”

  1. I have been both. Neither was a luxury. I was not disobedient to God or scripture in either of these stages. Trying to explain what women should do is where Christians get it wrong. It’s not an all or nothing proposition. God can and does provide wisdom to each of us for all situations.

    1. Yes we have to remember that scripture doesn’t specifically say women must stay home. Some churches push so hard for women to stay at home when it’s just not feasible for some. Thanks for reading!

  2. I’m a homemaker. It sort of just happened that way. I’ve always had children. Right out of high school was my first, years later a second with my husband. It wasn’t planned, but we were married and I considered him a gift to us all. But I also brought me home from college work. I still have yet to finish a degree. Homemaking has always “gotten in the way”. My generation has the expectation of women having careers, feminism I think, has stabbed us women in the back, somewhat. I grew up believing it’s the norm to have a career. My mom always worked. She wasn’t the best homemaker. It’s taken a long time for me to learn what all your saying. It’s not low to be a homemaker, it’s not lazy, heck no it’s hard work, it’s under appreciated in our society and that hurts. I help on the farm, I homeschool, I became certified as a doula, I work on our financial plans. So I DO work. But I feel worthless sometimes because I still have that voice in the back of my mind saying, “you have no degree, you don’t have a high paying career, your just a burden.” It’s something Ive recently accepted, that I am doing good here, as a stay at home mom. I don’t have support or encouragement. But I don’t need it. I’m doing Gods work.

    1. Amen! You are doing Gods work! It doesn’t matter if we work a high paying job or if we stay at home, we all have equal worth as women! Some women have careers and that’s okay, as long as they still prioritize their family first! However, some women are called to the home full time, and that is their full time ministry! I believe you are doing a great work by staying home and caring for your home! You are right, our generation looks down upon women who don’t work, but that’s not right! God’s Word says a women’s most important ministry is her home life! We need to keep it that way! I’m a full-time career woman myself at the moment and I work with women who have families. I see how the ones who hold higher positions struggle with their home lives and the ones who hold less stressful positions seem to be able to care for their families better. It keeps me aware of the fact that it’s okay to work, but it should never be our main priority when it comes between family or a career!

      Thanks for reading! 🙂

  3. I have been on both sides of the homefire, so to speak. I have been a full-time working mom, a SAHM and a part-time working mom, which I am now. NONE of them are easy. All of them require you to serve in different ways. Whether we work outside the home or inside the home, we do so for the glory of God. His Glory is our ultimate ministry. Married or not, mothers or not, women have important work to do for the Kingdom. This is the key message I try to emphasize to the young women I shepherd.

    1. You are so right! Everything we’re called to do is a ministry for God! Be it work outside the home, or work inside the home, it’s all for God!
      Thanks for reading!

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